Today I overdid it, and I am not thrilled with myself. Notably, I’m most annoyed by the fact that I overdid it for a stupid reason.
Back in 2013 I started walking for mental health. The focus was not to be on weight loss or calories or any of that – but as an acknowledgement that my mental health does better when I get outside and I move some.
In between then and now, I got sucked in my diet culture again and exercise became about calories and competition. I once again got sucked into the belief that the only “good” fat person was one who was publicly and visibly exercising, and ideally not eating. I had ‘almost’ ditched diet culture before this, but my mental health was low and I was more than ready to believe anything negative that might be said about myself, whether true or not. Exercise was no longer about exercise or enjoyment or getting fresh air, nor was it about mental health; exercise was now about going further faster and longer, pushing yourself and not accepting less. Exercise was about earning the right to exist, the right to eat. Taking photos of said exercise was about showing the world that I had worth because despite being unacceptably fat, I was doing the work.
At the end of last year, 2020, I managed to drag myself out of it. It was after doing an hour swim and an hour’s walk and still feeling like I hadn’t “done enough to count”, or to share, that it occurred to me these were not valid thoughts. Somewhat by accident, I fell into (whilst literally on the treadmill at the gym) the podcast Maintenance Phase which brought me back to what I already knew to be true and was instrumental in resetting my mindset. However, I had to take a deliberate pause from going out to exercise… because I so quickly fell back into a harmful mindset.
When I did try walking again, I had issues. One leg in particular (but on occasions, both) goes numb after awhile and it becomes like literally walking on a dead weight. It’s an issue I’ve had for awhile now (first experienced in highschool). I’ve mentioned it to doctors but no one’s interested; the best I can find via Google is that it’s a sign of overdoing it. So with that in mind I’ve been getting out walking again but very deliberately pacing myself slowly, both in terms of overall time, distance, and speed. In doing that I’ve managed to feel the benefits of getting outside and walking. I haven’t had any issues with my legs.
Beyond that, I’ve recently discovered that exercise helps release the pressure and that “buzz” that builds up in me and leads to a meltdown when ignored. Since that realisation I’ve made a point of getting out for a moderate amount of movement as much as practically possible. Suddenly exercise is all about the mental health again. I’ve been loving it. The fact that it’s now the very beginning of swimming season here only makes that better. The water is my happy place.
Today though, I got caught up by the stupid Apple Watch “rings”. These are activity rings – the red measures calores (which I dislike, but there’s no option for changing it to steps, which I’d far prefer. The blue measures standing – specifically, hours in which I stood for at least a minute. The green is my nemesis. In theory, it measures exercise. Apple describes the exercise ring as measuring “anything as intense or more intense than a brisk walk.” Frankly, I call B.S. I’ve done walks, including with the Workout app, and had it not count anything from them. Knowing that, and knowing that baseline… I foolishly went out today and decided I “was going to make it count”. So I walked about as briskly as I could muster. I managed 10 minutes at that pace before my calves cramped. And then I decided that wasn’t enough so I slowed down a fraction and carried on for another 33 minutes. Yes, my leg went numb again, meaning I had to stop several times just to try to get some feeling back in it. I stretched. I paused. I tried ‘walking in place’ movements to try to shake it off.
I knew I’d overdone it. I knew it when I was doing it. I knew it when I decided to fight that damned green ring.
All that… and it didn’t work. Apparently that was only 7 minutes worth of exercise. Less, actually, because on closer inspection, three of my minutes were randomly gained at intervals across the day, but my 43 minute walk was only worth 4 minutes, according to Apple.
Now I’m home, my calves and foot are cramping, and I have regrets.
To be clear, I don’t regret going for a walk. I had a great time at the beach. I regret falling back into the trap of letting an app dictate my actions… and the link my brain automatically made from that to self-worth.